Living With Purpose: Emerging into Adulthood from Penticton and into New Places -thoughts from a Penticton counsellor
- Melanie Jill Konynenberg
- Jul 30
- 2 min read
Updated: Jul 31
Emerging adulthood is a transitional stage, typically occurring between ages 18 to later 20s.
This stage can come with pressures to develop independence, which can include both financial and living independence. It can come with uncertainties as to "what next" and "what should I do."
There can be expectations and pressures to “have it all figured out.”
From my own life experiences and observations, there are no "rights" or "wrongs" as to what a life path "should" look like. That being said, influences and advice can be both overwhelming and often unhelpful.
Thought #1:
Let's start with, "What are Your Values?" What matters to you, in the whole scheme of things? In this "One Journey", what do you want to be known for? These values are at your core and can provide helpful guidance when making decisions. Values are personal/subjective, so I will ask again: "What are your Values?" (not your family members', not your coworkers', not Google/social media platforms' values)
Thought #2:
What are your passions? What has given you a sense of purpose in the past? What topics are of interest? What might fill your bucket at this particular time in your life?
Thought #3:
People need people. Being a listener of ideas helps build relationships; however ultimately what you do with your time on this planet is your choice. Surround yourself with like-minded individuals who encourage rather than discourage.
Thought #4:
Embrace lifelong learning. Stay curious and open to new experiences and knowledge. Engage in activities that align with personal and professional development.
Thought #5:
It is important to prioritize both physical and mental health. Maintain a balanced diet, take time to be outside, and exercise regularly. Getting adequate sleep will support stress level management.
Final Thoughts
Emerging adulthood is an important time of personal growth and development. This time period can look all sorts of ways-"the world is your oyster."
For more thoughts from a trust source, please check out this article from Psychology Today:
Jamison, T. B., & Sanner, C. M. (2021) Relationship form and function: Exploring meaning-making in young adults’ romantic histories. Personal Relationships, 28(4), 840-859. https://doi.org/10.1111/pere.12400
Beckmeyer, J. J., & Jamison, T. B. (2022). Empowering, pragmatic, or disappointing: Young adults’ appraisals of singlehood and why they matter. Emerging Adulthood, 11(1), 103-109. https://doi.org/10.1177/21676968221099123
If you or your young adult child would like help navigating the transition into adulthood and beyond, please book your initial session using this link:
Sessions are available in Penticton, BC, and virtually for British Columbia residents. One Journey Clinical Counselling can direct bill some insurance providers. Melanie is a registered clinical counsellor with BCACC.